“There’s not enough time in the day.” How many times have you heard that, or said it yourself? Probably more than you can count. So it’s no surprise that just like death and taxes, we can probably also always count on stress being a part of our lives.
Of course, there is good stress and there is bad stress.
Good stress comes in the form of a job promotion, a wedding, the birth of a new addition to the family, or taking a long-awaited vacation. Other examples of good stress would be learning a new skill, taking up a new hobby, going back to school, or the excitement of an upcoming holiday celebration.
Bad stress, on the other hand, can be seen in losing a job, financial worries, relationship woes, or loneliness.
Good stress naturally includes a desired outcome. For instance, the stress of a job promotion is tempered by a pay raise. The stress of planning a wedding results in a happy wedding day.
Take a look at bad stress situations, and they usually don’t have a definable outcome, so there isn’t a resolution.
By taking a bad stress situation and attaching a realistic desired outcome, you create a positive out of a negative. Now you can take action steps to attaining that desired outcome, instead of simply letting negative thoughts and worries take over your mind.
In order to accomplish this, of course, you must first be able to detect the stress, and label it good or bad. Then, you must be willing to turn the bad around and create a positive situation from it.
Our brains can’t tell the difference between the two types of stress – so with either good or bad stress comes the physical reaction of the brain releasing the stress hormone called cortisol.
Cortisol is the “fight or flight” hormone that enables us to get up and moving in a stressful situation. This was very useful in hunting-and-gathering times, but is less useful today as we simply do not need this hormonal response in the ways or in the amounts that we used to.
Be willing to take a deeper look at your stressful situations so that you can decide to flip it around if necessary. Create goals that attach to negative stress, and then work the steps necessary to achieve those goals.
Take control over your stress, and you’ll see a noticeable difference in your life!
What clubs or organizations do you belong to? What meetings or activities are you involved in? Is it all necessary?
Carefully consider which programs and activities you can remove from your schedule – then do it!
Get rid of the stuff you never use by selling it, throwing it away, or giving it to someone who’ll make use of it. Once you’ve done that, organize what’s left over and make a place for everything. If necessary, use labels and organizational containers to make it easy to find things again.
Remember, your external environment affects your internal peace. Messy on the outside likely means messy on the inside.
Do a search online to find a budgeting system that works best for you. It needs to be simple and easy to use every day. Once you’re on a budget you’ll feel a lot less stressed due to finances.
Seek the help of an experienced financial planner who can steer you on the right financial path.
When you learn to be content with what you have right now, you’ll find much more peace within yourself.
If you’re stressed due to work situations or family conflict, getting a good workout will help you relieve stress. You’ll be able to think and reason more clearly, which will help you deal with some of the core issues that are causing your stress.
Take a good look at your routine and determine if the workload is really worth the toll it’s taking on your body and health. If it’s not – and there’s no end in sight – perhaps it’s not the proper solution to your problems anyway.
Getting things off your chest will help you sort out problems and see your situation in a new light. The less foggy your mind is, the more stress you’ll be able to remove from your life.
It often helps to have someone outside of the situation to talk to, because they’ll likely see something you don’t.
Journaling is a great way to see the progress you’ve made, which can be very therapeutic.